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13 september 2021

S. N. Lazarev about Fundamental Importance of Family

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S. N. Lazarev about Fundamental Importance of Family

I have recently compared the development of a person and civilization with the development of feelings. That is the feelings that shape a person’s character.

The Bible says: «The wicked man has no future and the lamp of the wicked will fade”. 

How do people become wicked? They just think about the wrong things and go in the wrong direction. 

Where the main goal of a person is to survive and fulfill his instincts, the result of this is that he will steal, rob and kill. But at  first he will be jealous. When a person is constantly jealous he will steal with ease. Where a person steals and gets caught, he will kill.  Theft will easily become robbery and then murder will follow. 

In the absence of focusing and caring continually about the development of divine qualities in our characters, demonic tendencies will develop instead. If we do not strengthen the basic instinct, that of love for God, love for our neighbour, unity, sacrifice and compassion, then the instincts of survival will gain the upper hand.

Namely, the instincts of self-preservation and that of reproduction or continuation.  The result will be division in society, promiscuity, cruelty and increases in robbery and theft — exactly what we are witnessing now. That is a cult of sex and violence.

And so I ask myself  - where can these divine qualities be developed? The answer is surprising and turns out — it is the family. 

The family provides a person with the opportunities for sacrifice, caring, showing initiative, forgiveness, understanding, the willingness to get along, sincerity, optimism and altruism. All these qualities are grown in the family. 

A person who is deprived of a family — his soul is not developed and he does not know how to love.

It starts when the baby first feels the warmth of his mother, and in response opens up and reciprocates with his feelings. It's the school of love. The family should be a school of love. This has always been the case. In the past.

We experience problems with it now. Without a family, a civilization will not survive. A family is not just the rock on which the state is built. If the family is destroyed — there is no state. There is destruction of family life occurring as we speak. But no one talks of it. The current rate of divorces is a disaster that we are silent about.  People are shouting  »virus, we are being killed." But family breakdowns are leading to drugs, crime, murder and suicide. 
People don't know what Love is. They don't know the meaning of sacrifice, what faith is or morality. Even without abortions, people are now dying in their millions. 
The reason is these values were never explained to them. It is down to the family to provide this education. Only the family can provide a proper upbringing. It is the family which gives an opportunity to make a person happy, allows you to open your heart and feelings. In the absence of a family the person is disabled.

Even when you raise a child in the best way, if he does not have a mother who loves him and strokes him, if there is no father to love  the child in his own way, then the child will not develop. I heard that in some kind of monkeys, they devote 3 days of their life learning to make a nest. During these 3 days the monkey’s mother must teach him the process.  If she fails to do this, he will never learn how to do it. As humans there exist in our subconscious memory certain stages in our life where we can fulfill our desires related to our family, love and sacrifice. When we ignore these stages and focus only on our personal prosperity, then we will degenerate. Let’s start with why families are now breaking up. Family life is always a sacrifice. It is sacrifice, compassion and care. If a person does not want to make sacrifices, where he cares only about his interests, then there will be no family. Currently, no one is being taught how to make sacrifices. The official propaganda teaches one thing — selfishness, consumerism, the cult of money, sex, violence, the cult of life and survival instincts. All of these lead to family break ups.
What does it take to keep your family alive? First, let's think about what a family is for? When we don't know what the purpose of a family is, we can go in the wrong direction. The result is the family will break up. So firstly, the family is needed for the development of the soul, learning about the world, learning Divine laws, the development of love in the soul and faith in God. 
What is Faith in God? When I love the person who hurt me, then I no longer love him but only the image of God that lies in him. The ability to see through the form helps to develop love. Because at the heart of everything, at the heart of all forms is the presence of God. Therefore, the first, the main goal of the family is learning about God and the development of love. And the second is the appearance of children in the world and their upbringing.  What does that mean? This means that a person must create a family not only for enjoyment, he must create a family as an opportunity to become happy, an opportunity to become sincere, loving, responsible, optimistic, energetic. The family must embody these qualities.  Moreover, when the main thing for a woman is not love, mercy, compassion and unity but pleasure or prosperity, then this woman will lose the family instinct, she will lose love for children. 
I have long noticed that promiscuous, lustful women  have a weakened motherhood instinct. They do not feel like mothers. For them children are something that merely coexist.
In this regard, Lars von Trier, the most talented film director, showed very accurately in the film Antichrist the process when renunciation of God goes in favour of pleasure and instincts. Antichrist is a tendency that kills love where Christ preached Love. 
 A man and a woman have sex. Then there is an orgasm. And at that moment, the woman sees her little child go to the window and she realizes that he will stumble and fall out the window. She has a choice. What will she choose? To have an orgasm or save the child's life?  What is more important — pleasure or love? For her, pleasure is more important.
 The child dies. She then suffers and this is a portrait of current civilization. One that refuses children, which is ready to kill its fellow people in favour of  the prosperity  of selected few. Why? Because faith, love and morality have been lost. The triumph of instincts is flourishing. Someone asked me 'why does the film end with dead women lying everywhere and the man walking by and seeing dead women?'.  This translates as the man being to blame for their death. But why is a man to blame if the woman chose? Because the strategic direction comes from men. Strategic decisions are always made by a man. But then a woman fulfills this decision on a practical level. If men stop to believe in God, women become depraved and cruel. Therefore, in order for healthy children to be born, and now, according to medical indicators, there are practically no healthy children, in order for states to not disintegrate, in order for people to be healthy physically and spiritually, parents must observe the elementary commandments to begin with: restrain their instincts and be ready for sacrifice, sincerity, care and understanding. This is general direction.  In the practices that follow we will discuss more specific ways to strengthen the family. 

One lady told me recently «we have friends who argue all the time and I noticed that after we visit them, when we come home we end up arguing the whole evening.  Is that possible?” 

I said — “Of course, when you resonate with them, then their problems are transported to you.»

I once consulted a psychologist who told me that the association where he worked provided advice for families and helped to resolve family conflicts. He told me that they produced good results but that all 300 psychologists who worked there got divorced.  When he asked me why this happened, I explained that our feelings and emotions are energy fields. This is why if you are advising someone and genuinely want to help them but that person does not want to change, the result is that you take on the person’s problems.

This is why if your friends are arguing and you want to help them by giving your advice, it is preferable to recommend that they try changing for the better rather than attempting to solve their problems. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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