Promiscuity, unrestrained desires and aggression in feelings, especially feelings which are part of a subtle plan, are very damaging to children.
Contempt is the emotion which goes most deeply into a subtle plan.
Remember in the Old Testament: where the wife of David, when she saw David cheering as a common man, she felt superior to him in her heart, feeling contempt for him and was unable to have any children.
For a woman to feel contempt for a man is a catastrophe.
Because feeling contempt for a man activates a programme of self-destruction, and in the case of a woman it affects her children and her health.
So it’s very important for women to get over the slightest moments of contempt for their fathers.
I saw a real example of this.
A young woman was 8 months pregnant and everything was going well. Then one day her dad came home drunk and had an argument with her mum. She judged him, and the result was the baby turned breech, so that instead of minutes it took over an hour for the baby to be born. The doctors said that any longer and the baby could have died. This followed the woman just judging her father.
Therefore start by retraining your bad feelings. How do you restrain those bad feelings? We need to understand that we are all Divine in essence and we are not perfect on the surface. It’s very important to understand a simple thing. I talked about it before and I will say it again.
When one person is richer than another person so one person has no money and another person has money: is the person with money better than the person without? Can we have contempt for the poor person? No, it’s not nice, it is not honourable to have contempt for the poor.
What about where one person is cleverer than the other person, can we have contempt for the less intelligent person? No, it’s not nice.
When one person is decent and honourable and another person is less than honourable, can we have contempt for the less honourable person? And here it is easy to make a mistake. We start to have contempt for people who are not honourable. But it’s just that we have more wealth in our souls. Therefore worship of our righteousness, worship of our honourability is a catastrophe.
We are all loving and kind in essence, on a subtle plan. And on the surface we are all imperfect: some are richer, some are cleverer, some are more honourable.