Changing One's Character is the Best Help for Future Generations
Sergey Nikolaevich, I pray like this: «Lord, let aggression toward love leave my soul and the souls of my descendants through despondency and the unwillingness to live.»
Is it right to pray this way? It seems to be helping.
Sincerely...
Aggression in the soul arises when a person does not accept God's will, does not wish to change for the better, cannot forgive, and holds a sense of being entirely right. In other words, when a person has excessive pride.
Aggression in the soul is the result of attachment that has built up over many years.
It is the result of a rejection of love through despondency, judgment, renunciation of close and loved ones, failure to follow commandments, and lack of restraint in desires.
If you are to ask God for something, it should be for help in maintaining love in the soul, in overcoming the worship of people and desires—that is, human happiness. Ask for help from the Almighty to learn how to forgive, love, and accept His higher will.
You can ask for help in changing your character for the better.
But in your case, it seems you have sinned and then ask in prayer for there to be no consequences.
It turns out that you are only asking, but doing nothing yourself.
Jesus Christ called for a change in character, for self-discipline, and for the transformation of people.
Christ spoke about how the internal state is more important than outward behavior; that a person without love in their soul becomes a hypocrite, formally following commandments while violating their true essence.
It is necessary to break away from religious stereotypes. Prayers for the removal of aggression will achieve very little.
First of all, I want to sincerely thank you for your research.
I am 30 years old. My father introduced me to your books when I was still a child; he tried to convey their meaning to me.
During puberty, my attitude toward my father changed dramatically, and I developed a deep sense of contempt, completely rejecting his words. I occasionally read your books, but I couldn't see my own problems.
I got married while pregnant, out of love. Throughout the pregnancy, I prepared my husband for the possibility that we might have a «special» child.
The baby was born dead, followed by resuscitation, which resulted in a severe form of cerebral palsy. For some reason, I wasn’t even surprised by this.
On the third day after giving birth, I asked my father to bring your books. I realized I had serious problems.
For many years, my husband «treated» me in full: weekly infidelities, partying, and spending money on all of it. But he constantly asked for forgiveness and said he loved me.
I saw that God repeatedly brought us together, so I had to accept both his behavior and the condition of our child—these were the «markers» that reflected my inner state.
I tried to change as much as I could. I have a very difficult character, so the path wasn't always straightforward. Looking back, I see that noticeable changes only started to appear after 6-7 years.
The contempt I felt for my father has left my soul, and I no longer have negative feelings toward him. My husband has changed tremendously! He quit smoking, no longer drinks at all, and doesn’t party. He is now an ideal husband and father!
For many years, I was afraid to have another child because I didn't know if my soul and the soul of my future child had been cleansed enough for the baby to be born healthy this time.
Almost 10 years later, we had a second boy—thank God, everything is fine. Many other things in life have also improved. Thank God and thank you!
I am aware of many of my problems, which I discovered through reading your books. I have prayed a lot for my descendants and try to change daily.
I still occasionally have to fight the worship of my desires—such as overcoming lust. I know, feel, and understand that I had these problems in past lives as well.
Sergey Nikolaevich, please help me understand something. I always thought that if I have a husband and children in this life, our souls would reunite in future lives as well, and they would again be my husband and children.
But recently, an acquaintance with significant spiritual abilities told me that this is not the case.
Is this true? Does that mean that in each life, I had different descendants to whom I passed down a lot of problems? If so, how should I pray for my descendants?
Before bed and, if possible, in the morning, I pray like this: «I thank God for everything that has happened to me, is happening, and will happen. I ask God to accept the love, joy, and happiness I receive from life.»
Several years ago, I used the phrase «accept all my love,» and immediately felt drained! I realized that we must keep some of the love for ourselves.
I repeat in my prayer that for me, my children, and all my descendants, love for God is above all, love for God is the highest value, the highest joy, and the highest pleasure.
I ask God to help me and my descendants see God in everything, to accept God's will without complaint or despair, while preserving love in our souls.
As I say this, I try to fully feel each word, otherwise, I sense that it just disappears into nowhere.
Thank you so much for everything!
Repentance is the first stage of change.
Working on yourself must begin with forgiving grievances, and then you need to change—to become someone who no longer takes offense.
Continuous growth is necessary, and that, above all, means changing one’s character.
Lust is usually a result of pride.
First, a person loses their aspiration toward God, their need for Him, and their sense of gratitude to Him.
Yet the Creator gives us everything we call happiness, health, and well-being every second.
Just like the Sun, which shines on everyone, whether they love it or not.
But those plants that close themselves off from the Sun gradually wither and die.
A proud person who turns away from God loses the feeling of happiness in their soul and tries to replace it with the pleasures of sex, food, money, power, etc.
Pride begins with grievances against God, dissatisfaction with fate, disrespect or judgment of parents, despondency, and the renunciation of love for a close person.
All of this violates the First Commandment. Then comes the worship of idols—not only other gods, but also people, as if they were deities, and oneself—one’s desires and instincts.
This is already a violation of the Second Commandment. Then comes lust, and love quietly turns into passion and the pursuit of pleasures.
Such a person loses their reverence for God and respect for their fate, placing their «self» above all else and attributing all achievements to themselves.
They worship life itself and everything that sustains and preserves it.
As a result, everything that a person worships, they begin to lose, because it leads them away from God.
A person must realize the danger of their delusions and, through repentance, begin the return to God.
Regarding your question:
People move through life like an acting troupe, where each person plays their role and solves their own tasks. Such a troupe is not eternal but can exist for over a dozen lifetimes.
I haven't delved deeply into this because it is dangerous to understand the processes occurring on subtle levels—this is God’s domain. The conscious mind should not meddle in the subconscious.
Continue to work on changing your character, for «the Kingdom of God is within you.»
Changing your character is the best help for future generations. As you change, so do they.
There is no need to intrude on past lives with repentance. The more deeply our character changes, the greater the span of time we affect.
Our changes can reach both our ancestors and past lives, as time is unified on the subtle plane.
When we change in the present, both our past and our future change as well.
Could you please explain why prayers for my children feel more powerful in church, but at home, they don't? At home, it feels like I'm just saying the words, and that's it—I don't feel anything.
Sincerely...
At home, you are first, but in the church, you are last, which is why your pride is less in the church.
Additionally, the energy of the church has a positive effect on us.
There is a concept known as the energy of a space.
When something is done continuously in a certain place, the space becomes «encoded» in a way.
The atmosphere of a dining hall and that of a theater are completely different because the energy is different.
Many people in large stores start to feel unwell after a while because attachment increases and energy is lost there.
To pray to God, you need to let go of your ambitions.
At home, you are the mistress of the house, so it is harder for you to detach.
But in the church, it is much easier to let go.
At home, immediate concerns constantly arise, distracting your mind.
In the church, you focus only on prayer.
S.N. Lazarev, «40 Questions About the Soul, Fate, and Health, Part 2»
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