They are sly, mean, cruel, ungrateful. It annoys me how people dote on them, indulge them, spoil them.
I find them completely uninteresting. I understand that this is bad and wrong.
I am a woman, 26 years old, and have a loved one with whom I have been together for over five years. We live separately and want to get married. But neither of us wants children.
Sometimes I am scared by my own feelings. Our parents are shocked! My mother calls us parasites and freaks because we do not love or want our own children.
I recently found out that there is a whole movement of people who dislike children—childfree.
I can't say that we are moral monsters. No, we are very compassionate, love animals, and are ethical. And it turns out there are many people like us.
What should I do?
I have read almost all your books.
I recently decided to seriously focus on my health. The rules are very simple—eat less, move more.
To start, I began going to the swimming pool.
During my very first visit, I noticed a strange peculiarity: I was greatly irritated by the women swimming in my lane.
Previously, I would either have expressed my negative feelings or, heeding the voice of reason, tried to suppress them.
Now, however, I decided to observe myself objectively and asked myself: why was I irritated, how do I perceive those swimming next to me?
It turned out that those around me not only irritated me—they seemed sly, cruel, and ungrateful.
I realized that I see the worst in people because it matches my inner state, namely my irritation.
Irritation is an attempt to protect one's territory, and subconsciously, I considered the swimming lane I used as my territory.
Conflicts with men usually result in superficial, harsh actions—thus preventing the build-up of resentment and irritation.
But when dealing with a woman, you restrain external aggressiveness, and this enhances the internal tension.
Therefore, irritation directed at women tends to be more intense and prolonged.
I curiously observed myself to see what would happen next, and after some time, I simply got used to the idea that several people swim in one lane at the same time.
Since women swim slower, I just had to adapt to it.
Internally, I began to see the lane not as my property but as a common area where certain rules of conduct apply.
In essence, this is development, practical dialectics—when we manage to align our self-preservation instinct, our ego, with the interests of others.
There's a saying: 'I won't take what's others', I won't give up what's mine.' A good resolution is to maintain respect for others while not demeaning oneself.
Now, let's talk about children.
My daughter has four friends who got married. All these four couples are childless.
Society has lost its moral foundations. Both spiritual and secular authorities are undergoing a severe crisis.
It is love and morality that restrain our instincts, and as soon as this saving mechanism is destroyed, people become slaves to their instincts, and their selfishness multiplies. Such people are no longer capable of sacrifice.
Children require a tremendous amount of giving.
This means restricting oneself in pleasures and prosperity. For children to be born, one must undergo a serious cleansing.
Most conflicts, quarrels, grievances, and infidelities occur because the souls of children are troubled.
When there are no children in a family, the deep cleansing of the soul becomes unnecessary, and desired comfort emerges, allowing one to live for oneself and forget about many problems — and about love, too.
Pets and plants grown on the windowsill also require care and attention, but they only give us positive emotions. This is, so to speak, controlled happiness.
Each woman (and man) intuitively feels whether she has the energy for change, development, care, and sacrifice.
If this energy is lacking, then having children not only infringes on well-being but also leads to possible illnesses and the death of the parents.
Therefore, the self-preservation mechanism activates: children seem unpleasant, disgusting, and undesirable.
Scientists have recently established a curious fact: all small children intuitively believe in God.
Scientists have seriously pondered the reason for this phenomenon and came to a simple conclusion: all those who did not believe in God long ago vanished from the Earth.
Statistics also show that in the families of the faithful, there are usually three or more children, in the families of the less faithful — two or three children, and among atheists, usually only one child, rarely two.
Thus, it only takes two or three generations for atheists to completely disappear.
As for those who become atheists, they emerge as a result of denying religious misconceptions.
They do not believe in clergy who engage in politics and commerce.
If religion and faith become intertwined, a critical attitude towards religion engenders a renunciation of faith.
The instinct for self-preservation and the instinct for the continuation of the species are actually the same instinct: the former is the protection and preservation of oneself and one's life in space, and the latter is the protection and preservation of oneself in time.
Not wanting to have children is essentially a program of self-destruction, which activates in conditions of increased prosperity.
Worshiping the instinct of self-preservation, that is, stability and prosperity, leads to their loss.
I think that in some time, one of the main problems on Earth will not be food or material well-being — children may stop being born.
Even among those who seem religious, faith is weakening.
Let's see what happens next — time will tell.
S.N. Lazarev, «Experience of Survival, Part 6»
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