Deadly Tango

Looking at the road, a gray ribbon rushing towards me, I recall another «victim-offender» situation that a patient told me about. He was a rigid idealist, believing only in principles. He skimmed through my books but couldn't believe that one needs to internally forgive the offender.

He had a wealthy brother. And one day, criminals kidnapped him for ransom. They chained him to a battery and beat him for two days. There was no safe place on him. The criminals revealed their faces, and he realized he was doomed. Then he overheard their conversation. The thugs were deciding how to kill him. And then he remembered that one shouldn't hate or condemn the criminal. He remembered that a person provokes aggression towards themselves.

He tried to change and started to pray. He prayed all day, forgave everyone, and prepared for death. The next day, the criminals released him. When he came to the hospital, the doctors said that most likely his internal organs were damaged. He was treated for a long time, and after recovering, he signed up for a telephone appointment with me.

«Your destiny has changed,» I told him, «because you managed to change profoundly. But your misfortune still persists. The readiness to condemn is not yet overcome, and the worship of the future too. Don't think that if your life was spared from above, you have rid yourself of all your sins».

I contemplate, looking at the forest surrounding the road. Winter has lingered this year. Indeed, the warming trend is becoming more noticeable. I glance at the driver. A few days ago, he told me about his problems. His field looked very bad. His wife and child were on a severe self-destructive path, and he was the author.

«You look awful,» I tell him. «Admit what happened in your family.»

There was a long pause. Then he gathered his courage and confessed: «I fell in love and wanted to leave my family. My wife and I had problems for a long time, and I was drawn to online acquaintances. I met a very beautiful woman and couldn't handle my feelings. She's married, but she had a falling out with her husband and wasn't talking to him. She's his second wife, and he divorced his first wife because of her. So, as soon as I decided to leave my family, she began to doubt our relationship and confessed everything to her husband. And now my soul is in complete chaos. I don't know whether to divorce or not.»

«Do you want to be buried with honors?» I ask.

«Are you serious?» he asks, surprised.

«Serious, but first, tell me the name of the woman you met.»

When I looked at her field, I saw exactly what I expected. The victim always finds the offender.

You internally worship the woman and female beauty. Huge internal attachment breeds claims, resentment, and jealousy. If a man internally worships a woman too much, he usually doesn't get strong feelings right away, so he doesn't perish. Worship is passion, not love. And such a man is usually given strong passion when he already has a wife and children. This gives him a chance to maintain distance and overcome passion and worship. The mistress must be very attractive but not very decent and must knowingly or unknowingly belittle his feelings — either by being married or by having heightened internal aggressiveness.

Your chosen one is a true «forest cleaner,» a man killer. If a woman steals someone's man, it means heightened passion and concentration on her desires. It's like casting a spell. With such a husband, she is unlikely to have a normal family life, and worshiping desires will make her increasingly aggressive. Such women are usually divorced or widowed.

«So what should I do now?» he asks.

Firstly, under no circumstances suppress the feeling of love. Secondly, don't be angry with this woman. The fact that she reconciled with her husband and told him everything is the salvation of your life. You went after passion and began to worship her. Unconsciously, you started to kill true love in your soul. If you divorced your wife and married this woman, I think you wouldn't have lasted even a few months. So now, immediately get flowers for your wife, ice cream for the children, and give your wife more compliments, because she's going through a very hard time right now.

If a man behaves wrongly, has a wrong worldview, he burdens his wife and children. Tango is danced by two. A man and a woman are climbers tied together. And each with their behavior can either ruin or save the other.

You will still be drawn to this woman, and this feeling cannot be suppressed. But know that it can kill you if you don't turn passion into love and overcome internal worship of women. Just because you avoided death doesn't mean you can cheat your fate. If you don't want to change, you'll be dealt with from above unexpectedly and mercilessly.

This conversation, which took place a few days ago, now resurfaces in my memory. The patient confidently drives the car towards the airport building that appears in the distance.

«You know, after our conversation, I almost died. First, my kidneys started to hurt terribly, I could hardly move. Then it became difficult to breathe. A week before that, I had my lungs checked, and everything was in perfect order. And then I felt like a severe lung inflammation had started. Then there were problems with the genitourinary function. I realized I was dying. I went to bed thinking, 'If it's God's will, then I'll die and accept it.' And the next morning, I woke up completely healthy. My body works like clockwork. What was that?» he asks, looking at me questioningly.

I shrugged and smiled:

«Sins enter with pleasure and exit with pain. You turned off the road leading nowhere just in time, and the problems that had accumulated managed to come out without taking your life with them. If this process had dragged on, purification would have come through death or through long and agonizing illnesses.»

S. N. Lazarev, «Diagnosis of Karma 12»