Dialectics of upbringing

I had planned to release the third book several years after the second one. But the information that came to me after the release of the second book was so important that I decided to introduce one or two new chapters in the next edition of the second book. However, condensing the information into one or two chapters didn't work out. So I decided to release the third book separately.

I wanted to release a book in the spring of 1996 that would contain answers to the letters I received. But the situation began to change so rapidly that I decided to keep the title «Diagnosis of Karma» and provide information on the latest research.

Once again, I want to warn readers: I teach nothing and call to nothing. I have my attempts to understand the surrounding world, I have my experience in helping the sick. That's what I share. If the picture of the world recorded yesterday starts to differ from today's, then I don't make corrections and keep everything as it was. I don't know how this unique report will end, but the feeling of the importance of my research pushes me forward.

Many readers have already understood that the counterfeit editions have nothing to do with me. If I write a fourth book, it will, I think, happen no sooner than in three to four years.

Before reading this book, it would be good to let go of any resentment toward God, parents, the surrounding world, oneself, and destiny. Readers might think that the book consists of fragments, but behind them is a whole.

The more perfect a system is, the stronger its tendency to isolate itself from the world, to focus only on itself. Therefore, true perfection must contain the denial of itself, which is the guarantee of its survival. Lately, I've noticed that I try to solve all problems only through spiritual purification.

Theoretically, I'm absolutely right, but there isn't always enough time to spiritually cleanse oneself. Correct actions are needed here.

One patient once told me a story. One woman started getting ulcers in her mouth, no medicines helped. She consulted the best doctors in Moscow, but to no avail. She turned to leading foreign specialists, but didn't recover. She even sought help from psychics. Some improvement occurred, but then everything started over again. All attempts to heal were unsuccessful.

After some time, she happened to share her problems with someone, and the person replied, «You have metal crowns in your mouth, they oxidize and cause ulcers».

When the crowns were replaced, the problem disappeared.

I had to deal with a similar situation. The head of a small company asked me for help.

«I read your book», he said, «I'm not hooked for money. I pay my employees more than they actually earn, and I don't spare money on health, but lately, I've been haunted by a sense of something wrong».

«You have a good intuition», I replied to him. «The only clue I see is a prosperous family, i.e., the troubles that come with fate, you accept with some resistance. This program is transmitted to your subordinates».

I looked at the field of the company's employees and saw a similar disturbance among them.

The case was elementary, and I forgot about it, but after some time, we met again with the head of the company.

«You know», he tells me, «my employees have started having troubles. I would like to figure out what's going on. Then I began to feel some inexplicable aggression towards my colleagues».

I first looked at the field of people surrounding this person and saw strong aggression. At its core was a cling to a prosperous fate, contempt for people. On the field level, you can see how their souls harden. And it's mostly associated with their boss. So, his aggression increased because of some trouble, or he failed the test.

I diagnose him, and to my complete surprise, I find no aggression. It turns out that his spiritual state has nothing to do with it. I spend about an hour talking to him and frantically try to find the cause. He has 2-3 possible problem options, but as I see, they are not related to the situation. At the same time, I mentally spin dozens of my options, but every time I hit a wall. When all my stereotypes collapsed and stopped working, emptiness appeared in my mind. The solution came elegantly and unexpectedly.

«You spoil your employees with high salaries.»

The interlocutor was stunned.

«How should I understand this?»

If a person makes mistakes and is not punished for it, his attachment to a prosperous fate grows. And his soul becomes proud and aggressive.
If a person receives a high salary, knowing that he doesn't earn it, and seeing that others receive much less for the same work, it also increases the attachment to a prosperous fate.

In this situation, it's quite difficult to remain balanced. Creative people manage it easier, but it's very difficult for an ordinary performer.

«So», I address the leader, You want good for your employees, and in your understanding, it's the absence of punishment for misconduct and maximum salaries, i.e., creating the greatest spiritual and physical comfort for subordinates.
So, you increasingly attach them to well-being and stability. Therefore, subconsciously they must destroy this stability to survive. In a normal situation, they should have ruined the work, i.e., the source of danger, but you have a good intuition and energy. Therefore, it's not so much the work that collapses as the fates of the subordinates.

Look, I show him, one of your employees' situation is heading towards death, and the other has a death hieroglyph in their field. But if they die, you will be punished.

In the past, many parents believed that the meaning of pedagogy is to create the most comfortable conditions for the child and to constantly read moralizing to them. But the child never perceived moralizing, and even the actions and behavior of the parents are not the most important here. The main thing that guides and nurtures a child is the inner state of their parents' souls.
Pedagogy is, on the one hand, love for the child, and on the other hand, creating situations that they will encounter in life and securing them in these situations.

If a parent punishes a child harshly for a transgression, while demonstrating love, it will be much better than unwillingness to bring them spiritual and physical pain. Kindness without discipline is no less dangerous than violence and cruelty.

S.N. Lazarev, «Diagnosis of Karma 3»