Revival of the Soul

Reader's Letter:

Thank you very much for your research; I have been familiar with it for 10 years. But I have really started working on myself in the last three years.

Twelve years ago, I met a girl, and we deeply fell in love with each other. But then I found out that before meeting me, she had had an abortion at the fifth month.

I struggled with doubts about whether to continue the relationship with her or not. But I decided for myself that love is more important.

We got married. We didn't have children for seven years. My wife went to church, prayed. God gave us a daughter. Everything seemed fine; the family lived in complete material comfort. But my wife became insanely aggressive; she says she doesn't know if she loves me or not. There is no dialogue. Any attempt to resolve a conflict ends in hysteria – everything that comes to hand is thrown at me. Periodically, I leave home.

How to help my daughter, as she watches her mother's behavior?

How to raise my wife? Or is it better to divorce?

I am 34 years old.

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Response from Sergey Nikolaevich:

I have written many times about how at the fifth month of pregnancy, the child communicates with God, and the killing of the child at this moment destroys love in our souls on a much larger scale than in other similar cases.

At the same time, the worship of that which caused us to abandon love is immensely strengthened. Usually, this is what is called prosperity, good fortune, plans for the future. Thus, pride increases manifold. Naturally, the character of the woman changes significantly. By destroying her soul, she loses the sense of unity with other people. In conflict, she will no longer seek compromise, nor can she yield. She must dominate and crush the opponent or destroy them. She will derive pleasure not from union with her loved one but from feeling superior to them. And the more comfort and prosperity such a woman lives in, the more aggressive and intolerant she will behave, and the more dangerous this state will be for her children.

If the wife is hysterical and throws various objects, it is a complete inability to handle conflicts, a subconscious desire to destroy the offender, an inability to reach agreement, that is, to accept a compromise that would satisfy both. The wife went to church, prayed, but did not change. In the Bible, it is said that any desire addressed to God is fulfilled. But we must be worthy of our desires and dreams. We must change so as to correspond to the happiness we seek. If we do not want to build the foundation and try to erect high walls, our happiness will inevitably begin to crumble.

Since the wife has not changed, her daughter's worship of a prosperous fate has likely increased significantly. The girl may not realize it yet, but she is deeply unhappy because for her, the interests of her own selfishness and pride are much more important than love and harmony. And therefore, she internally preempts those who may conflict with her. It's sad, but I want to warn right away: if the girl stays alive and does not suffer from a serious illness, then most likely she will be infertile and will not be able to start a family and build a personal life. Of course, a miracle could happen if the mother changes.

Why did the wife's character suddenly change so dramatically? There is a time to throw stones, and there is a time to gather them. All the emotions of our youth easily pass into the souls of our future children, and when the children are born, their subconscious feelings return to the parents with the same ease. It is impossible to shut oneself off from the emotions coming from children, and if they are aggressive, then the character, fate, and health of the parents may change. The change in the wife's character is the first phase of future misfortunes and illnesses. Now, whether it is worth marrying a woman who had an abortion at the fifth month.

Honestly, it's not worth marrying. Children will not be healthy, in 95% of cases. But if you love, you must marry. Love is not given freely. So there must be something in your soul: either in a past life, you forced a woman to have a late-term abortion, or you beat your wife, so she had a miscarriage, or you rejected a child who was born disabled. Or someone in your family had something similar. In ordinary situations, we flee from pain and unpleasantness, which is quite normal and logical. But if love has come, we must accept them and go through them.

Fate has its own views on soul purification. If there is no longer love for the wife in the soul, then divorce is possible, and then further difficulties will help the wife and daughter cleanse their souls and survive. If feelings remain, then one must prepare for a long process of re-education. Both the wife and daughter need love, prayer, and abstinence. However, from my point of view, complete material prosperity should not be given to them. It is desirable to create a monastic way of life for them: on the one hand, love and prayer, regular visits to the church, and on the other hand, limiting pleasures for the soul, spirit, and body. If you cannot do this, they will be helped by illnesses and misfortunes that fate will bring.

Humanism towards those who reject love and faith is a foolish and unpromising occupation. Harsh situations teach such people much better than any persuasions. Remember the words of Christ: «Do not cast pearls before swine, and do not throw your pearls to the dogs». Those who turn away from the Divine and strive for the animalistic are not amenable to persuasion. Those who rejected monotheism and, worshipping mammon, turned the temple into a place of trade, Christ scourged with a whip. He overturned their tables and drove these people out of the temple. This was not condemnation or punishment; it was salvation and help for those who turned away from love and from God. So it seems you are facing a long, difficult, and happy path of educating your wife and daughter. And along with them, yourself.

P.S. Over the course of a day, I pondered my response. It seemed a bit harsh to me, so I wanted to clarify it better. Confucius said, «It is very important to call things by their names». The name should reflect the essence of the thing, its meaning, and purpose—then we can handle it correctly.

If you call a meat grinder a vacuum cleaner, you will have problems using it. Let's think about what humanism is in relation to a person. We roughly understand what humanism is: it is compassion, care, participation, a desire to help the person to whom we show it.

Now we need to understand what a person is. Modern science and Western psychology perceive a person only as a body and believe that consciousness and feelings are functions of the body. Religion in Europe and America has lost its significance; in today's Europe, the rejection of Christianity, now called political correctness, is gaining strength. The thesis of the primacy of the soul is naturally completely ignored.

Society must develop, and the more it develops, caring for the body, the faster the soul and consciousness deteriorate. Homes, architecture, cars, clothing—all improve because they serve the body. Everything that should serve the soul degrades before our eyes. Therefore, Western society does not perceive its own degradation—after all, the concept of caring for the soul simply does not exist.

World religions actually reflect the laws of the universe. Intuitive, mystical understanding has always been much broader than empirical experience. World religions affirm: the soul is primary, and this is the truth; God is love. What we call the soul is the totality of our feelings, and the essence of the soul is the feeling of love. This feeling gives rise to consciousness, that is, the spirit. Without this feeling, the emergence and existence of the physical body are impossible.

Scientists conducted a simple experiment. At the moment of conception, the egg was shielded from all cosmic radiation—and then conception did not occur. And after conception, if the embryo was completely isolated from cosmic radiation, development ceased.

For life to arise and develop, a feeling of unity with the entire universe is necessary. Physically, everything was fine, but on the level of the soul, on the level of feelings, there was partial isolation—and this was enough for life not to appear or to cease. So, a person is, first and foremost, a soul, then a spirit, and ultimately, a body.

Therefore, humanism towards a person is, first of all, caring for their soul. It is supporting love in their soul, it is nurturing faith and morality, even if their body and well-being are compromised, especially since the soul often gets purified through the suffering of the body and spirit.

But primarily, the soul gets purified through love, through unity with God. The current juvenile justice system adopted by Western countries only protects the physical body of the child, while destroying family relationships, the ability to love, and forgive. This system is absolutely immoral, and it's understandable. Worshiping the body and money at the expense of the soul and faith cannot be morally acceptable. Whether we want it or not, we are all educators in our lives. The essence of education is the healing of the soul.

The disciples of Christ endowed with miraculous abilities could not heal the soul of the possessed. And when they approached the teacher and asked why their energy, their abilities were powerless in this case, Jesus answered, «This kind can only come out by prayer and fasting».

What is a demon? It's a tendency to renounce love and faith in God. When do we renounce love? When the body and spirit come to the forefront. Then, to save the soul, the destruction of consciousness and body begins. First, a person becomes possessed, and then continues to degrade and eventually dies.

What is needed for the demon to leave the soul?

The answer is simple: one must detach from the body and consciousness associated with pride and well-being.

It is consciousness that makes a person worship the future, provokes feelings of superiority, condemnation, and hatred.

It is consciousness that helps develop excessive ambition, fosters a thirst for power and money that becomes overwhelming and invincible.

Therefore, for the salvation of the soul, consciousness must disintegrate. The external signs of this disintegration are what we call possession and demonism. Expelling such a demon means expelling the disease that saves the soul. When the apostles tried to mechanically eliminate demonism, remove the external signs of the problem, they inadvertently harmed the soul of the person, their love and faith. The disease was cleansing the soul, and they inadvertently tried to pollute it—hence, no healing occurred. Christ explained that demon possession is cured by prayer and fasting.

Fasting is detachment from the body and consciousness, as well as from desire, that is, from the superficial layers of the soul. And prayer addressed to God is a touch of love and revival of the soul. To defeat demonism in the soul, one must return to God. It is necessary to limit one's body, spirit, and animal-human part of the soul—then the liberated energy turns into love for the Creator. And when this momentum gains strength and begins to exceed the momentum of decay, healing occurs.

So, we are all educators in our lives. And the essence of education is caring for the soul. We all want to master the wisdom of pedagogy—we read books on this topic, are interested in the experiences of other people in this field. And somehow, we forget that the best educator is God, and we should imitate Him. And He, above all, educates and saves love in our soul.

For the sake of salvation and the development of love, He gives us the suffering of the soul. He gives us, on the one hand, the highest pleasure and happiness, and on the other hand, the highest spiritual sufferings, so that we can feel the eternity of love and the transience of pleasures.

If we do not want or cannot accept spiritual suffering, we stop living with the soul and try to live with the spirit, consciousness, and future—then the sufferings of our spirit begin.

Like from the horn of plenty, troubles and misfortunes pour out, our future, dreams, plans, and hopes collapse. We begin to resent, condemn, despair, feel dissatisfied, and then we may start losing sight, going mad, discovering oncology, and so on. If, at the same time, we do not remember God, do not want to return to love, then the last stage of our degradation begins—destruction of the body.

This is the last chance to feel the illusory nature of the spiritual and physical world and turn to eternity. If a person persists and does not want to return voluntarily, then the return of the prodigal son will happen forcibly. A person dies, their body and consciousness disintegrate, but the soul continues to suffer and torment, already in the afterlife. The process of suffering is simply a lack of love, it is a reluctance to prioritize love for God.

Now a few words about a woman who had an abortion. She tried to renounce love in favor of her well-being, her ambitions, her goals, and plans. Such a tendency is called demonism and devilry. Accordingly, the soul is mutilated and the character is corrupted. Probably, this woman intuitively feels that the child's life can be saved if the mother's fate and future are destroyed. Subconsciously, she does everything to obtain a divorce, to receive

humiliation for body and spirit. Creating comfortable conditions for her, while condemning her and getting offended by her, is a crime.

She needs the opposite—love, forgiveness, and strict limitations. She needs humiliations in various forms—humiliations of the body, consciousness, and soul. If the husband cannot give her both love and pain simultaneously, she must find some misfortune for herself, provoke an illness—for the salvation of her child and herself. But any harsh measures should not be for revenge, but for the support and salvation of the soul. This is a complex art, and if a man does not master it, it is better to get divorced. We cannot exacerbate the pathological process.

Once again, I want to warn—no advice can be absolutely correct. Above all, one must believe in their soul and the feeling of love. The most important decisions a person must always make on their own.

S.N. Lazarev, «Experience of Survival 1»