The Path to Love
I am writing to you out of desperation. Since early childhood, I have suffered from stuttering and a fear of speaking. At the same time, I have no physical abnormalities and have no problems speaking with my close ones.
The greatest fear arises in brief interactions with people, as well as when being addressed by name.
I come from a poor provincial family, graduated from Moscow State University with honors, and was the best student of the economics faculty.
I received a European Commission scholarship for a master's program and am currently studying in France. To a large extent, I owe all of this to my stuttering, which I have constantly tried to compensate for.
Several years ago, I was offered remote help, but I refused, fearing I would get it «for free» without addressing the root cause. However, I still cannot overcome my problem.
I am suffering, and with the worsening of my relationship with my parents, suicidal thoughts have started to emerge.
Please help. Thank you in advance!
How many books have you read? And have you watched the seminars?
Sincerely...
Stuttering is a defensive reaction. A reaction to what? To fear. But what is fear, and why does it arise?
For a living being to survive, it must assess and control its situation. Energy is required for this control.
A human being is a combination of energies. We have physical energy, and we also have a more subtle one — life energy, which is spent in such situations. Let’s call it nervous energy.
Now imagine a situation so unexpected and incomprehensible that it defies control. What will happen?
There may be an uncontrollable release of energy. Moreover, this release can harm future generations, because, on a deep level, we are connected with them.
This is truly dangerous, and this process must be stopped — even at the cost of the life of the person losing this energy. In such cases, heart rupture, madness, heart attack, stroke, and other extreme outcomes can occur.
Fear slows down the release of energy, meaning it serves as a protective function.
So why did Christ say not to fear the future?
A believer understands that God controls everything, and He knows the future. This means that we shouldn't take on too much; God is in control.
Therefore, a believer, trusting in God, is not afraid of the future.
But a person with heightened pride tries to control the situation completely, which can lead to a massive, dangerous release of energy.
Fear, panic, and stupor act as protection, slowing down consciousness, which strives for total control over the situation.
In reality, a person controls the situation through feelings, that is, through the subconscious.
Consciousness, in principle, cannot control a situation, so the mind's desire for control can lead to a huge release of energy. This release of energy must be stopped.
Stuttering is the slowing down of consciousness — a defense mechanism to save the person from death.
How can stuttering be overcome?
One must learn not to fear the future more than necessary. One must learn to accept God's will and live through feelings, not thoughts.
It’s no coincidence that it’s said, «Blessed are the poor in spirit.» You must overcome pride, one of the main signs of which is the overstimulation of consciousness.
In order to change, you need to follow the path described in my books, not pick bits and pieces superficially, like a pill for instant recovery. If you want real results, forget about shortcuts.
Best of luck!
P.S. Why does stuttering decrease or disappear when people speak in a sing-song manner? Because when a person sings, their feelings — the soul — are engaged, while the mind slows down and relaxes.
Sing more often — this will awaken your soul and reduce pride.
I have downloaded your books from your website and will start reading them. You are absolutely right about pride, and I will do my best to overcome it.
You often speak about love for God; after receiving such a kind and encouraging letter from you, I am feeling this love for you right now! I wish you success and good fortune in everything!
Thank you so much for your recommendations, I will try to follow them and stay positive.
With respect and gratitude...
Dear Sergey Nikolaevich, thank you so much!
Your books have helped me a lot. Your response meant a great deal to me.
Life has become much easier, there is less negativity, and my stuttering has almost completely disappeared. I successfully graduated from university.
Once again, thank you very much. Wishing you all the very best, love, and kindness!
Sincerely...
S. N. Lazarev, «40 Questions About the Soul, Fate, and Health, Part 1»
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