The Principle of Complementarity

A man subconsciously chooses exactly the woman he needs, the one with whom he will feel happy on the inside.

This choice happens according to the so-called principle of complementarity.

If a man is greedy, he is drawn to a generous woman because she will heal his soul.

If a man is proud, he will love a woman who will humble him.

If a man is cowardly, he will be attracted to brave women.

The fact is that both love and friendship are largely about mutual exchange, helping each other at the level of the soul and character, and teaching each other.

We are friends with those from whom we can learn something. If you learn nothing from a friend, if there is no mutual sacrifice and help, then friendship, in principle, loses its meaning.

If my friend is smarter, braver, stronger, and more successful than me, I gravitate toward him, I find him interesting. The same mutual exchange happens between spouses.

Faith in God makes our thinking dialectical and allows us to create a harmonious family.

In every family, the principle of complementarity operates—this is the general framework of interaction between husband and wife.

If the husband is brave, the wife should be cautious, she must slow him down and appeal to common sense. After all, an excess of a quality like bravery can lead to problems.

If the husband is generous, the wife should be thrifty.

If the husband is very energetic and overly immersed in work, the wife should occasionally remind him that it's time to relax and rest.

In order to prevent the husband from going to extremes, the wife must create balance.

Moreover, not only positive qualities are subconsciously balanced between spouses according to the principle of complementarity, but also negative qualities.

If the husband is greedy, the wife tries to spend more money, thus balancing him.

If the husband is cowardly, the wife becomes excessively bold, leaning toward risk.

Husband and wife intuitively create a kind of tandem, and this tandem is viable.

If the husband prioritizes the soul, then he develops and cultivates qualities such as generosity, nobility, sincerity, independence, and bravery, while the wife balances him with complementing positive qualities.

If the husband prioritizes the body, then he develops greed, envy, resentment, and in this case, the wife will complement him with corresponding negative qualities in order to maintain balance in the family.

A family lives in accordance with the law of unity and the struggle of opposites.

If there is love, then the complementary qualities are positive, and the couple is happy.

If there is no love, then the complementary qualities are negative, and problems are inevitable.

S. N. Lazarev, «Secrets of Family Happiness»