Marriage and the relationship between spouses are a path to love and to God. When a person is on the journey towards God, they must sacrifice their ambitions, desires, and stability. If a person willingly moves towards God, conflicts are resolved more gently. However, if we do not want to move willingly, then a compulsory mechanism is activated – diseases, misfortunes, arguments, and infidelity begin. All of this works for the good of the soul. As sad as it may be, arguments and marital infidelity are involuntary assistance to the soul and a factor that pushes a person towards God.

If a husband does not want to change, then marital infidelity is a bitter medicine for him. The more comfortable his living conditions, the more caring his wife, and the better the sex, the faster his inner state will deteriorate because attachment will intensify. The stronger a person is attached to the family, the higher their pride, and the greater their jealousy, the more harmful stability, pleasure, and the absence of negative emotions are for their soul.

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Only God is eternal. It is not possible to elevate concepts like family, marital fidelity, justice, and responsibility to the level of absolute and eternal. Undoubtedly, all of these are very important and necessary for us, but worshiping them destroys our souls.

When marital fidelity, responsibility, and ideals take precedence, a person becomes willing to kill themselves or others due to jealousy or injustice. Nothing except God should be elevated to the absolute.

When a person forgets about God, the destruction of everything they worship begins in order to make them return to God. Idols are destroyed.

The more unshakable the human aspect, the less need there is for the Divine. Therefore, if we do not overcome the attraction of the human, it must be destroyed – either through infidelity, arguments, grudges, or through illness. In this case, it seems that the situation between the spouses is quite complex (perhaps there are problems with the children), so both factors are at play – illness and infidelity.

We should think not about external stability but about the stability of love in the soul. The goal of morality is not to protect our physical and spiritual comfort but to save the soul. For the soul, infidelity can sometimes be bitter medicine, whereas marital fidelity, stability, and comfort can be sweet poison.

The more jealous the husband, the more he worships his wife, and the more he is attached to sex, the more the situation will push his wife towards infidelity. We should not strengthen the tendency that leads away from God.

For a greedy person, it is a blessing when they are robbed; for a jealous person, when they are betrayed; for a selfish person, when they are deceived; for a proud person, when they are humiliated. This is how life is structured.

But if a husband is a believer, has an excellent character, is healthy, and sexually active, and his wife betrays him – that is a completely different story.